Friday, October 29, 2010

How To ‘Kill’ Your Mother In Law

A long time ago in China , a girl named Li-Li got married & went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn’t get along with her mother-in-law at all.

Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law’s habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.

Days passed, and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting.

But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li’s poor husband! d great distress.

Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-! law’s bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it! Li-Li went to see her father’s good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs.

She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all.

Mr. Huang thought for awhile, and finally said, “Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you.”

Li-Li said, “Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do.”Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Li-Li, “You can’t use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving.

Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspect you, when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. “Don’t argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen.” Li-Li was so happy.

She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law.

Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper!r, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother.

After six months had passed, the whole household had changed. Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn’t had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.

The mother-in-law’s attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in-law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter.

Li-Li’s husband was very happy to see what was happening. One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again She said, “Dear Mr. Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law. She’s changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her.”

Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. “Li-Li, there’s nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her.”

HAVE YOU REALIZED that how you treat others is exactly how they will treat you? There is a wise Chinese saying: “The person who loves others will also be loved in return.” God might be trying to work in another person’s life through you.

Thursday, October 28, 2010 Recommendations (Newborn)

·When talking to her, hold her about 10 inches from your face.
·Make sure she is alert with eyes open wide.
·Make your voice as animated and enthusiastic as possible.
·Make funny faces so she can imitate you.
·Make her smile and grin as often as possible.
·Call her name as often as possible.
·Keep talking to her and describe what you are doing
·Avoid background noises so she can focus at one sound at a time
·Use short phrases and sentences and keep repeating them
·Sing or recite a rhyming poem as often as possible
·Avoid shrill loud voices or noises.
·Read to her as often as possible.

Recognize her early signs of being bored, tired, hunger, and sleepiness and stop your learning interactions when these signs start to show.
Physical play is her enjoyment; pat her feet, tickle her belly, count toes and fingers, massage her head.
Play coordinated with animated verbal interactions stimulates her orbitofrontal cortex which is extremely important in the formation of attachment.
Play combined with an enthusiastic voice of the parent is the root of a trusting relationship.
Creating a daily series of shared attentions, physical play, and animated interactions between you and her builds a strong foundation for emotional, cognitive, language, and quantitative development in the future.
Avoid using the television or video at all cost to stop your baby from crying or for other purposes.

Social & Emotional development of Newborns to One Month old

Enjoys your face and responds positively to your voice
Looks at you intently to within 8 - 12 inches
Imitates when you stick your tongue
Cries when she is unhappy
Grins & seem to pull eyes into smile when she hears parent's voice
Moves her arms and legs in excitement
Enjoys physical play

Cognitive & Learning (Newborn to 1 month)

·Can distinguish parents face from strangers
·Prefer face of mother at 36 hours than a stranger in a video
·Prefer to listen to the voice of the mother when this is presented at the same time with that of another mother talking to her baby.
·Prefer also the sound of the mother's native language.
·Able to focus attention and interest on you just for a short time
·Is sensitive to touch and is calmed by being held
·Recognizes mothers scent within a few days
·Attention span is very short
·Might recognize music or song heard while in the womb
·Within a few weeks she recognizes the sounds that are important to her
·Prefer to watch movement of people than inanimate objects or animals

Language & Communication (Newborn to 1 month)

·Makes an eye contact when held to about 10 inches
·Recognizes parent's voice
·May distinguish low from high pitches
·Relies on rhythm, not on sounds, to distinguish one language from another
·Concentrate of sound of native language of the parent
·Reacts to sounds such as sudden loud noise
·Tries to stare at you when you speak to her
·Can be quieted down when crying by eye contact or being picked up

Hand-Eye Coordination (Newborn to 1 month)

·Grasp object placed in her hand by a reflex reaction
·Focuses on an object from 8 - 12 inches from face
·Blinks in reflex when an object approaches her face quickly
·Holds hand in a fist

Motor (Newborn to 1 month)

·Automatically swallows milk on her tongue
·Sucks in reflex when pacifier is placed on her mouth
·If started she will arch her back and throw her arms in the air
·Moves legs in reflex stepping action held on feet onto the floor
·Cannot hold her head without support
·When cheek is stroked she turns her head to find the nipples
·Sleeps in fetal position

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Doa For Baby

"Dengan nama Allah yang Maha Pemurah lagi Maha Mengasihani. Ya Allah, peliharalah anakku selama di dalam kandungan dan sembuhkanlah ia, Engkau Maha Penyembuh, tiada sembuhan melainkan penawar-mu, sembuh yang tidak meninggalkan kesan buruk. Ya Allah, lahirkan ia daripada kandunganku dengan kelahiran yang mudah dan sejahtera. Ya Allah, jadikanlah ia sihat sempurna, Ya Allah, elokkanlah perangai (akhlak), fasihkanlah lidahnya dan perelokkanlah suaranya untuk membaca hadis dan al-quran dengan berkat Nabi Muhammad s.a.w".

Gender Prediction

Based on gender prediction tool yg aku guna dekat, gender babyku...........


Xkesahla gender baby boy or girl, asalkan babyku sihat dan sempurna sifat..... :)

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